Odd One Out
It's truly painful to feel that you are the outcast, as if your thoughts or feelings don’t hold any value at all. Or when you find yourself in a group of friends, grappling with the unsettling sensation that you are the dispensable one, easily overlooked and forgotten. Experiencing these feelings or being unjustly labeled as such can make it immensely challenging to form genuine relationships or deep connections. You are often left wondering if the other person is truly sincere in their interactions, or if your presence is merely tolerated rather than cherished. You find yourself constantly observing their body language, analyzing every subtle shift, watching their facial expressions closely, and hanging onto every single word they say, almost as if you are trying to catch them in a lie or uncover some hidden truth.
Because of being perceived as the “odd one,” some individuals may find themselves unwittingly entering into toxic and unhealthy relationships. In their search for acceptance, they often cling to whoever will have them, sometimes overlooking important red flags. Unfortunately, entering into these types of relationships can lead to deep emotional pain, leaving them feeling as though there is something inherently wrong with their very being. The other person doesn’t appreciate their quirkiness, individuality, or unique traits. As a result, they inadvertently get labeled as hard to love or, even worse, unlovable. This damaging notion becomes so deeply ingrained into their minds that they start to believe they are truly unlovable. They often feel a pressing need to make changes to themselves, convinced that otherwise, no one will ever genuinely love and accept them for who they are.
So many people struggle to fit in, feeling as though they carry the burden to be like everyone else or they won’t be liked. Often, many individuals judge others before they even have the chance to open their mouths and share their thoughts. The hair isn’t neat enough, the clothes they wear aren’t trendy or stylish enough, their shoes or handbag isn't from a well-known designer, or perhaps they don’t make enough money or drive a fancy car. Whatever the reason may be, we tend to place limits and conditions on forming meaningful relationships with others outside of the “norm”. Why do so many people choose to be friends with or date individuals who fit a particular type or kind that they find more acceptable?
Personally, I have a deep appreciation for those quirky, odd individuals who embrace their uniqueness. I can learn so much from them and their experiences. They offer me a fresh perspective on life, and in turn, they help me grow into a better version of myself. I don’t care what store they prefer to shop in, what particular brand they choose to wear, how much money they earn, or which side of the tracks they happen to live on. If they possess a good heart and kind spirit, then they are undoubtedly my kind of people. I genuinely don’t mind having my viewpoints challenged. In fact, I find it to be quite enlightening as it either helps me see another way of thinking or, on the flip side, I can in turn help them consider a different perspective altogether. It's all part of the beautiful dance of dialogue and understanding.
If you are only choosing to surround yourself with people who are just like you, how do you truly grow and expand your understanding of the world, and see the diverse perspectives that others have to offer? Bring the odd ones in, because they offer a delightful uniqueness, a dash of fun, and a sprinkle of beauty that you might just be missing from your everyday life. Embrace their quirks, and let them brighten your world!
CL
